I was surfing around the web (as usual) when I came across this website which sells products that are very simple but OH MY GOD GENIUS nonetheless.
My top three picks are:
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Volunteer
Today, I went to a place in Permy Jaya to volunteer my time and effort for recycling. I was the second youngest person there. Almost 99% of the volunteer there are already middle aged or arriving there soon.
Most of them have kids themselves and one of them were talking about how she has to give her youngest daughter RM300 every month to supplement her schooling expenses and she only earns around RM400 per month as a chef.
And this auntie were complaining about how her finger joint hurts and another auntie expressed the same pain. It was one of the major eye opener experience for me because for most of the time, I'm surrounded by middle, above middle and rich people and RM300 to them is peanuts. I could spend RM300 in a blink of an eye. And yet here they are, volunteering their time to help conserve earth's resources.
My parent always tell me that it's because my life is too good that when the littlest thing goes wrong in my life, I will sink into depression. Which I admit is true. Compare to previous generations, youngsters today don't take setbacks or failures really well. We are not as resilient as our ancestors and we are more concern about materialistic wealth.
Another uncle told me about a person they visit regularly. Person A had his intestines removed when he was only three years old because it didn't work properly and the doctor told him he couldn't work because if he works, it will worsen his condition. But Person A didn't have anyone to take care of him nor give him money for food so he has to work in order to survive. What's even worse is his current job is in construction.
For Person A, the situation is really damn if you do and damn if you don't.
It really made me think that what I have is really good. It's better than good. :)
Most of them have kids themselves and one of them were talking about how she has to give her youngest daughter RM300 every month to supplement her schooling expenses and she only earns around RM400 per month as a chef.
And this auntie were complaining about how her finger joint hurts and another auntie expressed the same pain. It was one of the major eye opener experience for me because for most of the time, I'm surrounded by middle, above middle and rich people and RM300 to them is peanuts. I could spend RM300 in a blink of an eye. And yet here they are, volunteering their time to help conserve earth's resources.
My parent always tell me that it's because my life is too good that when the littlest thing goes wrong in my life, I will sink into depression. Which I admit is true. Compare to previous generations, youngsters today don't take setbacks or failures really well. We are not as resilient as our ancestors and we are more concern about materialistic wealth.
Another uncle told me about a person they visit regularly. Person A had his intestines removed when he was only three years old because it didn't work properly and the doctor told him he couldn't work because if he works, it will worsen his condition. But Person A didn't have anyone to take care of him nor give him money for food so he has to work in order to survive. What's even worse is his current job is in construction.
For Person A, the situation is really damn if you do and damn if you don't.
It really made me think that what I have is really good. It's better than good. :)
活在当下，不透支生活的烦恼
今天买了一本书 - “不抱怨的世界”。其中有一篇文章叫- “活在当下，不透支生活的烦恼”，觉得写得很好，所以在这里分享一下。
有个小和尚，每天早上负责清扫寺院里的落叶。
清晨起床扫落叶实在是一件苦差事，尤其在秋冬之际，每一次起风时，树叶总随风飞舞。每天早上都需要花费许多时间才能扫完树叶，这让小和尚头痛不已，他一直想要找个好办法让自己轻松些。
后来有个和尚跟他说：“你在明天打扫之前先用力摇树，把落叶统统摇下来，后天就可以不用扫落叶了。”小和尚觉得这是个好办法，于是隔天他起了个大早，使劲猛摇树，这样他就可以把今天跟明天的落叶一次扫干净了。一整天小和尚都非常开心。
第二天，小和尚到院子里一看，不禁傻眼了，院子里如往日一样满地落叶。老和尚走了过来，对小和尚说：“傻孩子，无论你今天怎么用力，明天的落叶还是会飘下来。”小和尚终于明白了，世上有很多事实无法提前的，唯有认真地活在当下，才是最正确的人生态度。
库里希坡斯曾说：“过去与未来并不是‘存在’的东西，而是‘存在过’和‘可能存在’的东西。唯一‘存在’的是现在。”
活在当下是一种全身心地投入人生的生活方式。当你活在当下，而没有过去托在你后面，也没有未来拉着你往前时，你全部的能量都集中在这一时刻，生命因此具有一种巨大的张力。“当下”给你一个深深地潜入生命水中或是高高地飞进生命天空的机会。当然在两边都有危险 - “过去”和“未来”是人类语言里最危险的两个词。生活在过去和未来之间的当下就好像走在一条绳索上，在它的两边都有危险。但是一旦你尝到了“当下”这个片刻的甜蜜，你就不回去顾虑那些危险；一旦你跟生命保持同一步调，其他的就无关紧要了。对你而言，生命就是一切。
当生命走向尽头的时候，你问自己一个问题：你对这一生还存有遗憾吗？你认为想做的事你都做了吗？你又没有好好笑过、真正快乐过？
想想看，你这一生是怎么度过的：年轻的时候，你拼了命想挤进一流的大学；随后，你巴不得赶快毕业找一份好工作；接着，你迫不及待地结婚、生小孩；然后，你又整天盼望小孩快点长大，好减轻你的负担；后来，小孩长大了，你又很不得赶快退休；最后，你真的退休了，不过，你也老得几乎连路都走不动了。。。。。。当你正想停下来好好喘口气的时候，生命也快要结束了。
其实，这不就是大多数人的写照吗？他们劳碌了一生，时时刻刻为生命担忧，为未来做准备，一心一意计划着以后发生的事，却忘了把眼光放在“现在”，等到时间一分一秒地溜过，才光然大悟。
智者常劝世人要“活在当下”，到底什么叫做“当下”？简单地说，“当下”指的就是：你现在正在做的事、待的地方、周围一起工作和生活的人。“活在当下”就是要你把关注的焦点集中在这些人、事、物上面，认真地去接纳、品尝、投入和体验着一切。
而事实上，大多数的人都无法专注于“现在”，它们总是若有所想，心不在焉，想着明天、明年甚至下半辈子的事。假如你时时刻刻都将力气耗费在未知的未来，却对眼前的一切视若无睹，你永远也不会得到快乐。一位作家这样说过：“当你存心去找快乐的时候，往往找不到，唯有让自己活在“现在”，全神贯注於周围的事物，快乐才会不请自来。”或许人生的意义，不过是嗅嗅身旁绚丽的花，享受一路走来的点点滴滴而已。毕竟，昨日已成历史，明日尚不可知，只有“现在”才是上天赐予我们最好的礼物。
许多人喜欢预支明天的烦恼，想要早一步将它解决掉。其实，明天如果有烦恼，你今天是无法解决的，每一天都有每一天的人生功课要交，努力做好今天的功课再说吧！用平常心对待每一天，用感恩的心对待当下的生活，我们才能理解生活和快乐的真正含义。
-----活在当下，不透支生活的烦恼-----
有个小和尚，每天早上负责清扫寺院里的落叶。
清晨起床扫落叶实在是一件苦差事，尤其在秋冬之际，每一次起风时，树叶总随风飞舞。每天早上都需要花费许多时间才能扫完树叶，这让小和尚头痛不已，他一直想要找个好办法让自己轻松些。
后来有个和尚跟他说：“你在明天打扫之前先用力摇树，把落叶统统摇下来，后天就可以不用扫落叶了。”小和尚觉得这是个好办法，于是隔天他起了个大早，使劲猛摇树，这样他就可以把今天跟明天的落叶一次扫干净了。一整天小和尚都非常开心。
第二天，小和尚到院子里一看，不禁傻眼了，院子里如往日一样满地落叶。老和尚走了过来，对小和尚说：“傻孩子，无论你今天怎么用力，明天的落叶还是会飘下来。”小和尚终于明白了，世上有很多事实无法提前的，唯有认真地活在当下，才是最正确的人生态度。
库里希坡斯曾说：“过去与未来并不是‘存在’的东西，而是‘存在过’和‘可能存在’的东西。唯一‘存在’的是现在。”
活在当下是一种全身心地投入人生的生活方式。当你活在当下，而没有过去托在你后面，也没有未来拉着你往前时，你全部的能量都集中在这一时刻，生命因此具有一种巨大的张力。“当下”给你一个深深地潜入生命水中或是高高地飞进生命天空的机会。当然在两边都有危险 - “过去”和“未来”是人类语言里最危险的两个词。生活在过去和未来之间的当下就好像走在一条绳索上，在它的两边都有危险。但是一旦你尝到了“当下”这个片刻的甜蜜，你就不回去顾虑那些危险；一旦你跟生命保持同一步调，其他的就无关紧要了。对你而言，生命就是一切。
当生命走向尽头的时候，你问自己一个问题：你对这一生还存有遗憾吗？你认为想做的事你都做了吗？你又没有好好笑过、真正快乐过？
想想看，你这一生是怎么度过的：年轻的时候，你拼了命想挤进一流的大学；随后，你巴不得赶快毕业找一份好工作；接着，你迫不及待地结婚、生小孩；然后，你又整天盼望小孩快点长大，好减轻你的负担；后来，小孩长大了，你又很不得赶快退休；最后，你真的退休了，不过，你也老得几乎连路都走不动了。。。。。。当你正想停下来好好喘口气的时候，生命也快要结束了。
其实，这不就是大多数人的写照吗？他们劳碌了一生，时时刻刻为生命担忧，为未来做准备，一心一意计划着以后发生的事，却忘了把眼光放在“现在”，等到时间一分一秒地溜过，才光然大悟。
智者常劝世人要“活在当下”，到底什么叫做“当下”？简单地说，“当下”指的就是：你现在正在做的事、待的地方、周围一起工作和生活的人。“活在当下”就是要你把关注的焦点集中在这些人、事、物上面，认真地去接纳、品尝、投入和体验着一切。
而事实上，大多数的人都无法专注于“现在”，它们总是若有所想，心不在焉，想着明天、明年甚至下半辈子的事。假如你时时刻刻都将力气耗费在未知的未来，却对眼前的一切视若无睹，你永远也不会得到快乐。一位作家这样说过：“当你存心去找快乐的时候，往往找不到，唯有让自己活在“现在”，全神贯注於周围的事物，快乐才会不请自来。”或许人生的意义，不过是嗅嗅身旁绚丽的花，享受一路走来的点点滴滴而已。毕竟，昨日已成历史，明日尚不可知，只有“现在”才是上天赐予我们最好的礼物。
许多人喜欢预支明天的烦恼，想要早一步将它解决掉。其实，明天如果有烦恼，你今天是无法解决的，每一天都有每一天的人生功课要交，努力做好今天的功课再说吧！用平常心对待每一天，用感恩的心对待当下的生活，我们才能理解生活和快乐的真正含义。
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你会打给谁？
今天看到这一句话：“假如你的生命只剩一天，然后你只能打一通电话；你会打给谁？”
亲爱的，我会打给你。然后跟你说：“我爱你。”
就简简单单的一句我爱你。
不必道歉，因为你我都没有错。
不必解释，因为没有什么东西好解释。
不必乞求原谅，因为在宇宙眼里每一个人都是完美的。
不必想当时假如如何如何结局就会如何如何，因为一切都是安排好的。
不必拜托你回来把我从痛不欲生的谷底解脱出来，因为是我自己舍不得放下痛。
只想你知道，我爱你。
亲爱的，我会打给你。然后跟你说：“我爱你。”
就简简单单的一句我爱你。
不必道歉，因为你我都没有错。
不必解释，因为没有什么东西好解释。
不必乞求原谅，因为在宇宙眼里每一个人都是完美的。
不必想当时假如如何如何结局就会如何如何，因为一切都是安排好的。
不必拜托你回来把我从痛不欲生的谷底解脱出来，因为是我自己舍不得放下痛。
只想你知道，我爱你。
好好地去面对
离回美里只剩6天了。越靠近日期，我整个人就越觉得烦躁不安。是因为害怕的原因吧。因为这一次回去。。。就需要做一件我妈妈很痛恨的事情 - 把旧伤口挖出来，赤裸裸的去面对它。这一次的伤口是我爸爸妈妈之间产生滴。但对我的影响力极大，所以也可以说是我们三个之间的问题。
妈妈对于问题的态度就是能忽略就忽略，不能忽略就找事情把问题压下去。能藏多深就有多深，就好是永远不能见天。可怜的妈妈以为这样子，问题就会解决，问题就对他以后的生活没有影响力了。但是旁观者清，我们都看到妈妈还是活在痛苦里面。不只这样，他的痛苦也造成了他最亲爱家人的痛苦。
妈妈这种态度，他觉得是对的。所以当我们三姐妹遇到什么事情时，他都是叫我们不要想太多；去找事情做，把自己忙碌起来。时间过了，就不会再痛了。世界上，千千万万的人都是会选择采取这一个办法。但是，真的有用吗？我觉得并不。这个办法是一个很烂很烂的建议。一个心灵创伤不是你忽略它，它就会走掉的。它会在你最脆弱的时刻，最不经意的时刻，最不知觉的时刻，突然间涌起来，让你觉得无法呼吸，痛不欲绝。
这一切我都不怪妈妈。有什么好怪？妈妈只是以当时的智慧，经验还有世俗来解决问题。我真的只希望妈妈能够好好地去面对一切，而不是把种子藏起来。这个种子要是爆发起来，后果真的很难处理。他的种子即是我的种子，所以我必先必须去面对。也许这样子，妈妈也可以鼓起勇气去面对。我想让妈妈知道面对完后，没有事的。痛的话，就让它去痛。痛完后，就没有事了。以后这件事也不能影响到一家人了，因为它根本不存在。
外婆外公也有这个问题。外婆太外公太也有这个问题。都不知道轮轮回回多少世了。不想让它轮到我这一世。我记得我第一次去觉醒中心的讲座时，老师在白板上画了这么一个图。
老师说，从祖先开始，假如一件事情没有得到圆满，就会一直传下去。如何才能是一件事情不会传下去呢？这样子：
只要把事情好好地面对，他就会没有机会延续到下一代了。
这个轮回就以我来斩断吧。因为这是一件只有我能做的事。
妈妈对于问题的态度就是能忽略就忽略，不能忽略就找事情把问题压下去。能藏多深就有多深，就好是永远不能见天。可怜的妈妈以为这样子，问题就会解决，问题就对他以后的生活没有影响力了。但是旁观者清，我们都看到妈妈还是活在痛苦里面。不只这样，他的痛苦也造成了他最亲爱家人的痛苦。
妈妈这种态度，他觉得是对的。所以当我们三姐妹遇到什么事情时，他都是叫我们不要想太多；去找事情做，把自己忙碌起来。时间过了，就不会再痛了。世界上，千千万万的人都是会选择采取这一个办法。但是，真的有用吗？我觉得并不。这个办法是一个很烂很烂的建议。一个心灵创伤不是你忽略它，它就会走掉的。它会在你最脆弱的时刻，最不经意的时刻，最不知觉的时刻，突然间涌起来，让你觉得无法呼吸，痛不欲绝。
这一切我都不怪妈妈。有什么好怪？妈妈只是以当时的智慧，经验还有世俗来解决问题。我真的只希望妈妈能够好好地去面对一切，而不是把种子藏起来。这个种子要是爆发起来，后果真的很难处理。他的种子即是我的种子，所以我必先必须去面对。也许这样子，妈妈也可以鼓起勇气去面对。我想让妈妈知道面对完后，没有事的。痛的话，就让它去痛。痛完后，就没有事了。以后这件事也不能影响到一家人了，因为它根本不存在。
外婆外公也有这个问题。外婆太外公太也有这个问题。都不知道轮轮回回多少世了。不想让它轮到我这一世。我记得我第一次去觉醒中心的讲座时，老师在白板上画了这么一个图。
爷爷奶奶 ---> 爸爸妈妈 ---> 我 ---> 我的孩子
老师说，从祖先开始，假如一件事情没有得到圆满，就会一直传下去。如何才能是一件事情不会传下去呢？这样子：
爷爷奶奶 ---> 爸爸妈妈 --/-> 我
只要把事情好好地面对，他就会没有机会延续到下一代了。
这个轮回就以我来斩断吧。因为这是一件只有我能做的事。
I'm feeling really lost right now. But I have come to accept that it is alright to be lost once in a while. It's life's way of nudging you softly to remind you to take a breather and reexamine whether you're heading in the right direction.
When you're feeling lost, it's best not to seek for answers although it is extremely tempting to do so. Just embrace the feeling of being lost, of being absolutely terrified and love yourself for what you are right now - a beautiful wondrous mess.
You don't have to do anything. Well you can do something like meditate, eat (but don't overeat) and just bathe in the sunlight. Let the gentle waves of life carry you to the path that you seek. Everything is okay. =)
When you're feeling lost, it's best not to seek for answers although it is extremely tempting to do so. Just embrace the feeling of being lost, of being absolutely terrified and love yourself for what you are right now - a beautiful wondrous mess.
You don't have to do anything. Well you can do something like meditate, eat (but don't overeat) and just bathe in the sunlight. Let the gentle waves of life carry you to the path that you seek. Everything is okay. =)
Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue.
Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them.
And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.
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Rainer Marie Rilke
Rainer Marie Rilke
You are joy, looking for a way to express. It’s not just that your purpose is joy, it is that you are joy. You are love and joy and freedom and clarity expressing. Energy — frolicking and eager — that’s who you are. And so, if you’re always reaching for alignment with that, you’re always on your path, and your path will take you into all kinds of places. We will not deny that you will not discover miracles and create benefits and be involved in creation, and that you will not uplift humanity…we will not say that you will not find satisfaction in so many things that you create, but we can’t get away from the acknowledgment that you are Pure Positive Energy that translates into the human emotion of joy.
Abraham/Esther Hicks
Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won't either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.
Louise Erdrich
from The Painted Drum
我不會耍手段，因為我打心底裡瞧不起耍手段這回事；當然，真要耍起來，我也不行。我不喜歡勾心鬥角、不喜歡算計，因為我壓根兒覺得這樣的人生很累；當然，我也沒有算計和勾心鬥角的天份。可是，想用愛與慈悲去感化一個人，是不是終究太自大了？慈悲是好東西，慈悲到近乎軟弱，那並不是好東西。
要是一個人能夠用他忙於算計、諂媚、嫉妒和破壞別人的時間來做點正事，他的人生肯定比現在有成就和意義。可他們為什麼沒有這樣想？當他失意的時候，假如他能夠檢討自己，而不是遷怒於別人，他是不是可以更快爬起來？要是他懂得擦亮眼睛，看得清真情和假意，他是不是會比現在過得好？
要是對方浪擲我的愛與慈悲，我也只能沉默，當做修煉。這樣想的時候，我才不會覺得感傷，我的信念才不會動搖。到了最後，所有不珍惜的人，都會成為過去。
Source from here.
I will greet this day with love in my heart.
And how will I do this?
Henceforth will I look on all things with love and be born again.
And how will I do this?
Henceforth will I look on all things with love and be born again.
I will love the sun for it warms my bones; yet I will love the rain for it cleanses my spirit. I will love the light for it shows me the way; yet I will love the darkness for it shows me the stars. I will welcome happiness as it enlarges my heart; yet I will endure sadness for it opens my soul.
I will acknowledge rewards for they are my due; yet I will welcome obstacles for they are my challenge.
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Og Mandino
Og Mandino
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